partner of the educative interaction. During the Good Nights, John Bosco would love to say: ``I
need to discuss something with you…``. This is a pedagogy based on the rights of the child.
The building of this covenant relationship with the young requires a good stance from the part
of the educator. He must be sufficiently friendly so as not to be indifferent, and sufficiently
distant, so as not to be in fusion with the child.
Essentially, the art of education consists in identifying the space of proper distance and
proximity with the young. A great difficulty in education – and that is why education for John
Bosco is more an art than a science - , is that the proper distance and proximity to be
determined depends on both the young and the educator.
When speaking about education, what is important – and it is even more so for young people
who are deprived of affection-, is not the intention of our gesture that matters, but rather the
way it is perceived by the child. This requires always a great prudence on the part of the
educator.
John Bosco used to repeat to his educators: ``What matters is not that young people be loved,
but that they know that they are loved``. In other words, the essential is in the perception of
the child.
This great educator, called ``Father and Teacher of Youth`` in the ecclesial tradition, is often
presented with the popular imagery of a tightrope walker. It took me quite some time to
understand the meaning of this image. Of course, it refers to the fact that, as adolescent, John
loved to play as a street entertainer to gather his friends. But there is also a more symbolic
meaning: isn’t the art of education somehow like the art of a tightrope walker? To know how
to say yes, but also to know how to say no; to be sufficiently close, but also sufficiently distant.
To offer security, but also to make responsible. It is always a question of balance.
We are talking not only about a covenant with a young person but also with the group. To
experience the group, not like a burden, but like an opportunity for the process of socialization.
With a group, the educator sometimes has a tendency to only perceive a sum of individual
relationships, while it is a question of interactivity between the members of the group.
John Bosco, thanks to his undeniable talents as a comedian, knew how to transform the group
as an ally. He was able to see the dynamic of the group, not as a difficulty, but rather as an
opportunity to promote the growth of the responsibility of each one toward the others. For
example, think about the associations.
Finally, it is also about building an alliance between all the adults which relate with the same
young person. In the last letter which he addressed to the directors, John Bosco stressed the
quality of the relationships between the members of the educative community. The first right of
the child is certainly the right to the coherence between all the adults that accompanies his
growth. How many times have I identified a link between the violence of a child and the
incoherence of the adults that accompany him!
CONCLUSION
The final word will be borrowed from someone else. Let us listen to Jean Duvallet, an old
friend of Abbé Pierre, as he speaks to young Salesians :
«You have works, colleges, and oratories for the young, but you have only one treasure:
the pedagogy of Don Bosco.
In a world in which youngsters are betrayed, squeezed dry, crushed, exploited,
the Lord has entrusted to you a pedagogy in which respect for the young person,
for his greatness and his frailty, for his dignity as a son of God prevail.
Preserve it, renew it, rejuvenate it, enrich it with all the latest discoveries,
and adapt it to these twentieth century creatures and their tragedies that Don Bosco could not
know about.
But for heaven’s sake, preserve it!
Change everything, if necessary lose all your houses but preserve this treasure,
forming in thousands of hearts the way to love and to save the young,
which is Don Bosco’s heritage. »
- 4 - Congresso Internazionale “ Sistema Preventivo e Diritti Umani “ Roma, 2 – 6 Gennaio 2009