CONFIDENTIAL MEMO TO SALESIAN RECTORS
Critical Text: F. Motto - English Translation: P. LAWS
INTRODUCTION
Blessed
Michael Rua first began to attend Don Bosco's Oratory
in 1845, when he was eight years old. He stayed with Don Bosco for the rest of
his life, eventually becoming his successor.
In the autumn of 1863, Don Bosco asked Rua,
by now a young priest, to go to the town of
Re-edited and expanded by Don Bosco over the years, what had
begun life as a personal letter, by 1871 had become a "public"
document, given to all superiors of Salesian communities as they took up their
appointments.
What is presented here is the final and definitive text
dated
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With Yourself
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1: Don't let anything upset you. |
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2: Don't make your diet too austere. Your
self-denial can come from carrying out your duties, and putting up with the
troubles others cause you. Allow yourself seven hours sleep every night. For
any reasonable cause - both for yourself and the others - this may be varied
by an hour either way. This is good for your health, and that of your
dependants. |
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3: Celebrate Holy Mass and pray the Divine Office pie,
attente ac devote. This applies to you, and to
your dependants. |
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4: Never omit meditation every morning, and the
Visit to the Blessed Sacrament during the day. For the other things (concerning
the life of prayer. Tr.) do what is set out in
the Rules of the Society. |
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5: Strive to make yourself
loved rather than making yourself feared. Love and patience should accompany
you whenever you give orders, and when you correct, and you should act in
such a way that from your deeds and from your words, every one might
understand that your first aim is their spiritual good. When it is a question
of preventing sin, put up with anything. Let your care and concern be
directed at the spiritual good, the good health, and the sound education of
the young people a caring God has entrusted to you. |
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6: When the question in hand is more important,
raise your mind briefly to God before you come to a decision. When any report
is made to you, listen to everything, but try to get the facts very clear,
and to hear both sides before making a decision. It is not uncommon that
certain things that at first sight seem to be like a heavy beam turn out to
be only a wisp of straw. |
With the
Teachers
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1: See to it that the teachers have everything they
need in the way of food and clothing. Be aware of how hard they work, and
when they are ill, or even just feeling out of sorts, send a relief teacher
to their class. |
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2: Often speak to them singly or together; observe
whether they have too much to do; whether they lack clothing or books;
whether they have any physical or moral problems; or whether in their classes
they might have pupils who need to be admonished, or particular matters
concerning discipline, or teaching method, or the level at which they teach.
If you come to know of a need, do what you can to meet it. |
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3: In the talks you address to them in this regard,
recommend to them that they ask questions of every student in the class
indiscriminately; that each one in turn should read out their work. (Tell
them) to avoid unhealthy friendships, and favouritism,
nor should they ever take students or others to their rooms. |
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4: When they have to assign work to their students,
or counsel them, they should use the classroom or room set aside for this
purpose. |
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5: On the occasion of Days of Obligation, novenas,
or feast days of Our Blessed Lady, of the Patron Saint of the place, or of
the school, or days honouring one of the mysteries
of our holy religion, let them announce the event with a few words. They
should never omit to do this. |
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6: Watch to see that teachers never put students out
of the classroom, or where this becomes absolutely necessary, they arrange
for someone to go with them to the one in charge. They should never, for any
reason, strike anyone who does not do his work, or who misbehaves. If
something serious happens, they should immediately inform the Principal or
the Rector. |
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7: Outside of school hours, the teachers may not
exercise their authority over the pupils, and they should limit themselves to
giving good advice, warnings, or at most to the sort of correction that a
properly-understood charity would suggest. |
With the
Assistants and Dormitory Supervisors
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1: What has been said of the teachers can in large
part be applied to the Assistants and Dormitory Supervisors. |
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2: Spread the work load around so that these people
have the time and the conditions to attend to their studies, as with the
teachers. |
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3: Willingly spend time with them to hear their
views about the young people entrusted to them. Their most important duty is
punctually to be wherever the young people assemble to go to rest, to class,
to work, to sport and such like. |
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4: If you become aware that any one of them might
have formed an unhealthy friendship with a pupil, or that his position, or
his personal morality, are in danger, prudently transfer him to other duties.
If the danger continues, inform the |
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5: Every so often call a meeting of the teachers,
assistants and dormitory supervisors, and inform them all that they must make
efforts to prevent bad conversations, to get rid of every book, writing,
portrait, picture (this is wisdom) and anything else that might put in
danger the Queen of Virtues, purity. Let them give good advice to all, be
kind to all. |
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6: It is the concern of everybody to identify
students who might be dangerous (to others, morally. Tr.). Insist they
be identified to you. |
With the
Lay Brothers and Those in Service
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1: Arrange things so that each morning they are able
to hear Mass and receive Holy Communion according to the Rules of the
Society. Domestic staff should be encouraged to go to Confession once a
fortnight, or once a month. |
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2: Be very charitable in giving orders, making it
clear from your words and your deeds that you are seeking their spiritual
good. Be attentive in particular that they do not strike up friendships with
the boys, or with outsiders. |
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3: Never allow women to enter the dormitories or the
kitchen, nor should they have anything to do with anyone in the house except
to perform an act of charity, or in case of absolute necessity. This article
is of the greatest importance. |
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4: If disagreements or disputations should arise
between those in service, or between the assistants, or between the boys or
others, hear each one out with kindness, but generally speaking offer your
opinion separately to each party, so that the one does not hear what you say
of the other. |
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5: A tried and tested Lay Brother will be put in
charge of those in service. He will oversee their work, and their conduct, so
that there will be neither theft nor loose talk. But be attentive at all
times that no one does errands for, or manages things on behalf of,
relatives, or other outsiders, whoever they may be. |
With the
Students
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1: Never accept students expelled from other
schools, or those you come to know to be morally bad. If in spite of your
caution, you come to admit someone of this kind, immediately assign him a
companion you can trust to take care of him and never lose sight of him. If
he should happen to lapse into indecency, give him just one warning; if he
offends again, he should be sent home immediately. |
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2: See to it that your students get to know you, and
you them, by passing as much time as possible with them, using the technique
of a friendly "word in the ear" - something you know all about -
each time you see the need. This is the great secret that will make you
master of their hearts. |
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3: You will ask, "What sort of words?" The
same sort that would have been said to you once upon a time. For example, How
are you? Good. And your soul? More or less. I need your help
for something important, will you help me? Yes, what is it? To make
you good. Or, to save your soul. Or, to make you the most outstanding
youngster here. With the more restless ones: When do you want to start? What?
To be my consolation; to be as good as St Aloysius. To those who receive the
sacraments reluctantly: When are we going to beat the devil? How? With
a good Confession. It's up to you. As soon as possible. At other
times, When are we going to do the laundry? Or, Do you feel like helping me
beat the devil? Would you like us to become partners in the business of your soul. Things such as these. |
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4: In our houses, the Rector is the Ordinary
Confessor, so make it clear that you willingly hear every one's Confession,
but give them full liberty to confess to others, if they so desire. Let it be
well known that when grades are awarded for conduct, you do not take part,
and take good care to banish even the shadow of a suspicion that you might
make use of, or even remember, anything said to you in Confession. Nor should
there be seen to be the slightest sign of favouritism
towards anyone who goes to Confession to one priest rather than another. |
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5: The Altar Servers Group, the Sodality of St
Aloysius, of the Blessed Sacrament, of the Immaculate Conception should be
recommended and promoted. Show goodwill and approval towards those who have
joined. You, however will encourage, but not direct these groups. Consider
such things the work of the young people themselves, whose oversight is
entrusted to the Catechist. |
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6: When you find out about any serious fault, have
the guilty party brought to your office, and with the greatest kindness try
to get him to say what he has done, and that doing it was wrong; then
admonish him, and invite him to take steps to put his conscience to rights.
By this means, and following up the student in a kindly way, will have marvellous effects, and improvements that might have been
considered impossible. |
With
Outsiders
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1: We should willingly make ourselves available for
religious services, for preaching, and celebrating Eucharist for the
convenience of the people, and for Confessions, every time charity and our
regular duties permit, especially in the Parish in which our house is
located. But do not take on appointments or other things that involve your
being away from the house, or which could interfere with the responsibilities
entrusted to each one. |
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2: As a courtesy, outside priests should be invited
from time to time to preach or carry out other duties on Feast Days, when we
have entertainments, and suchlike. The same invitation should be extended to
Civic dignitaries, and all those people who look favourably
on our work or support it, as a recognition of favours received, or in anticipation of their help. |
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3: Charity and courtesy should be the hallmarks of a
Rector, whether towards residents of the house, or outsiders. |
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4: In matters concerning material things be as
obliging as you can, so that any pretext for wrangling, or anything that
might damage charity might be kept away. |
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5: In spiritual matters, things should be always
resolved in a way that will redound to God's greater glory. Previous
undertakings, minor details, revenge, self-love, excuses, pretensions, honour itself, should be given up in order to avoid sin. |
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6: In matters of great importance it is well to ask
for time to pray and seek advice from some holy and prudent person. |
With
Those of the (Salesian) Society
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1: The exact observance of the Rules,
and especially of obedience are the foundation of everything. But if you want
the others to obey you, be yourself obedient to your own superiors. One is
not suitable for command, if he is not capable of obeying. |
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2: Make sure that the work is shared out so that no
one is too heavily burdened with duties, but see to it that everyone carries
out faithfully the duties entrusted to him. |
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3: No member of the Congregation should enter into
contracts, receive money, make loans or lend to relatives, friends, or
others. Nor should anyone keep money or administer goods without being
directly authorised by the |
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4: Hate like poison modifications to the Rules (of
the Salesian Society). Their exact observance is better than any
variation. The better is the enemy of the good. |
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5: Study, the passing of time, experience, has made
me understand and see with my own eyes that greed, self-interest and pride
have been the ruin of flourishing Congregations and respectable Religious
Orders. As the years pass you yourself will come to know facts that you would
now consider incredible. |
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6: Put your best effort - by word and deed - into
promoting the common life. |
When
Giving Orders
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1: Never command things you judge to be beyond the
strength of your subordinates, or which you foresee will not be obeyed. Act
so as to avoid giving repugnant orders; what's more, do your best to
encourage the natural inclinations of each one, preferring to assign offices
to those whom you know would be happiest to fill them. |
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2: Never order things that could harm peoples'
health, or rob them of the sleep they need, or which might get in the road of
their other tasks, or the orders of higher superiors. |
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3: When giving orders always speak and act in a
kindly and gentle way. Threats, anger, not to speak of violent acts, should
never be part of your speech or your actions. |
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4: When the case arises of having to command
something difficult or distasteful to the subordinate, one could say, for
example, Could you please do this or that? Or: There is an
important matter I would prefer not to trouble you with, because it is not
easy, but there is no one who could do it as well you. Would you have the
time, the energy? Is there anything else that might prevent you? And so
on. Experience has brought me to understand that similar approaches, used at
the opportune moment, succeed very well. |
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Economy should be practised in everything, but
absolutely in a way that nothing should lack to those who are sick. In any case
everyone should see that we have made a vow of poverty, and so we should not
look for, or even want, affluence in anything. We should love poverty, and the
friends of poverty. And so avoid every expense on clothing, books, furniture,
travel, etc., that is not absolutely necessary.
This is
like a Testament which I direct to the Rectors of each house. If this advice is
put in practice, I can die in peace because I am certain that our Society will
flourish ever more in the sight of men and be blessed by the Lord, and will
achieve its end, which is the greater glory of God and
the salvation of souls.
Yours
affectionately in Jesus Christ,
Father
John Bosco